How to Win Friends and Influence People

Dale Carnegie

"Six Ways to Make People Like you"

1. Become genuinely interested in other people: 

The Six ways to become genuinely interested in other people is by listening to what others have to say. By having listening skills you can let people get comfortable with you and it creates a stronger connection between you and the person. For example if the conversation is about problems the person has in their life, then most likely you could give them advice. The person could either take it or leave it, but at least options were provided for that person. Another thing that you could do to become genuinely interested in some one is being open minded in order to try new things. An example could be that someone in particular likes to skateboard, but you have never tried it before. The solution to that problem would be to be able to try new things and learn how to skateboard for the other person. Whether you end up liking it or not, at least you tried and gave it a shot; in other words, you were a team player. I will continue to be genuinely interested with what other people say or think because i have respect towards others. With respect it allows the other person to feel special and more motivated to talk to you often. I will apply these skills that i have developed over the years when at school, or for example when in the workplace. 

2. Smile: 

Six ways to get people to like you is to start off by smiling. When smiling make sure your teeth dont have anything stuck in them. It is important to brush your teeth daily, to keep your teeth white and clean. By seeing a health smile it increases a persons mood by 20%. It is shown that when a person goes a day without laughter or a smile it is most likely found that the person experiences a bad day. When their day is full of smiles and happiness, the persons day could be positive and be an experience everyone wants. A smile, will eventually lead to a hello. With a hello, it can turn into a normal concersation. With a normal conversation, it can develop into a great relationship between two people or more. The relationship that can develop could be a friendship bases, or a lover bases. A smile could make you happy or the other person happy at the same time. I would be willing to try to smile daily in order to be happy, but smiling gives you wrinkles at an early age. Also, happiness only lastest about five sec. i will continue to be myself and smile when i want because you dont have to be happy all the time. It is important to experience every emotion throughout the day, because otherwise your day would be planned and you wouldn't be living, but simply a programed lifestyle. 

3. Remember Names: 

Six ways to get people to like you is to remember their names. By remembering their names you show an interest towards the other person and make a connection. Remebering the persons name shows that you as a person care enough to acknowledge that they are in this world. In a way it makes the other person feel better about themselves that makes them feel more confident about themselves. Names display important characteristics of a person and how unique they are from one another. When a parent names a child, most of the time there is a back story to it. When and if that story is shared then the other person could remeber specific key points of the story, causing a bigger and stronger bond. The bond could be between the other person and yourself, or a group of friends. 

4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves: 

Six ways to get people to like you is to encourage others to talk about themselves. By allowing others to talk about themselves it gives you as a person an inside on how the person really is. For example, the conversation topic could be about how difficult the persons life was. By opening up to a person you could discover more talents or specail characteristics about yourself that you never knew before. Every person is different with someone else. For example a boy could talk differently towards their mother than if it was their friend. I want to acknowlegde that i talk different when speaking to my own mother than to my siblings. The limit of respect is very high when i speak to my mother, but may i say that when i soeak towards my siblings the level of respect is lowered. I will continue to allow others to express themselves with me by allowing them to talk about themselves. 

5. Talk in terms of the other man's interest: 

Six ways to get people to like you is by talking terms of other mans interest. By talking to other people you can find a passion that you and the other person share between each other. If you barley meet a person it is important to break the ice between each other to fully understand what the person actually likes. By asking questions it shows how interested you are in finding out the different qualities the other persons carry. The other person should also take the time to consider what you like or what your interests are. 

6. Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely:

Six ways to make people feel important is by bringing up things that the person said last time. For example if someone mentions that they have a dog named max, you could ask how the dog is doing perhaps two weeks later. That shows that you listen when they talk, and take in what they say when they say it. making someone feel important can also be asking them questions about how they feel that day. For example, "How are you?, How was your day?" if the person happens to be sick you could ask whether or not they got better. An example is, "Do you feel better?, How'd you sleep?, Are you going to go to the doctors?" 

Reflection: 

The six ways to make people like you is to fake it until you make it. Being interested in someone and asking questions will make the other person feel special. Use a nice smile to make the other person feel comfortable enough to talk to you. When you use these six ways you have a 99.9999% chance of making new friends. Friends come and go, but family is forever. Remember the persons name, it could help you to avoid awkward situations. I will aplly these skills to my life because i want to become more social.